Teen Awareness
Dealing with Troubled Teens you need to unveil their own individual Awareness
You can't unveil their knowledge and personal understanding without communicating with them.
Communicating with Teens
When we first have our child we are in charge. The role clarity of parent and child lends a harmony to the relationship that surprises us by coming under tremendous threat as our child enters the teenage years. Suddenly our child is almost as big as we are and the possibility of real opposition rears its ugly head. We, who were accustomed to running the show, find ourselves trying to develop rationale behavior for our child. Ah yes, these are the teenage years. After years of communication that has been so successful and cute that you have captured it on video, you find yourself harboring an alien in your midst. There is only one defense. Learn the language. The first step in learning a new language is listening without judgment or interruption. Create a safe environment and not an inquisition where the child feels they can talk to you.
Teens and Lying
Disruptive behaviors, including aggression and lying, are some of the hardest to deal with when it comes to your children. It is a sad and overwhelming feeling to have to watch your child start on a path that will cause obvious misery. The purpose of understanding trait pairs is to help pass the knowledge on of the inevitable outcome of their behavior. When a teen gets away with a small lie, they tend to move onto bigger lies, it's harder than it looks. You found out, you talked to them, you feel hurt and betrayed, but you pass it off as a youthful indiscretion and let it go. They promise not to do it again, but the consequences did not match the action, and therefore they will continue to test and push to see how far they can get. Your job is to set clear expectations with your teen about lying, and set clear consequences.
Judgment and Discrimination
When a son or daughter starts to feel like an adult they may start to defy their parents' wishes. Decide what you will allow, while understanding that this is the Millennial generation that you are dealing with. Consider what is to be unacceptable and than be consistent. The Millennial generation has learned it is better to ask for forgiveness and mercy than to ask for permission. They are the generation that has known only cell phones, satellite television, instant communication and information. They are a generation that has not gone without.
